Monday, October 13, 2003
Okay, completely disregarding everything from tuesday's post, here's why things are *really* a bit on the crappy side just now.Brigitte and myself have mutually agreed to go our separate ways.
Though we still love each other to bits, our lifestyles, dreams and ambitions are completely at odds, which makes living with each other problematic. It's not like we argue or anything like that... we get along great, but it's not enough to sustain a meaningful relationship when we both want to be doing entirely different things.
There's no recriminations, no blame, no unpleasantness, and we fully intend to remain friends.
So now Brigitte's looking for new accomodation, and may already have found somewhere, while I have to find a job, since even if my current income returns to where it was before, I still won't bring in enough money to pay all of the rent and bills by myself.
It's very difficult to write about the whole thing here, but suffice to say that yes I am depressed about how things have turned out and I'm going to miss Brigitte a great deal. Thing is though, we're both realistic about it, and know we aren't the people each other needs, and would ultimately make each other more unhappy if we stayed together.
Some people might say "Well can't you change? Can't you compromise?", but in truth, if you have to change, either yourself or your partner, you're with the wrong person... and really, compromise is just the process where neither person gets what they want, for the sake of calling it fair.
Sad as it is to say, it's the grown up decision, and the right decision, even though it hurts.
Steve 1:24 AM [+]
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